Third date counted as 5 dates because first we went to The Greene Turtle for food. We then went to Dave and Busters and played some games and then we went and saw This is 40. It was a long night, fun but long and therefore counts as 3 dates. The 6th date happened this past Wednesday. It was just a lunch date. We met at Applebee's, had lunch and then went to our separate homes. His son was in town and I was not ready to meet him just yet. If we are still an item come spring break, I will be meeting his son then since that's the next time he will be in town.
A few weeks ago, and then tonight, my brother asked "How do grown adults make a relationship exclusive?" When we were in Middle School or even in highschool perhaps asking someone if they'd like to be your bf/gf would be acceptable, but in the adult world seems kind of weird. I'll let you know how it was done with Mike and me.... Mike asked if I had any nicknames and I told him that my close friends and family call me Mesha, my family also calls me Tada and coworkers call me Reedy. (I did leave out the fact that I'm also called Fat-head and Magilicutti but those are on a need to know basis!) I told him he can call me Melissa and then he said that I can call him boyfriend. I said why don't I call him the Guy I'm Dating Exclusively (GIDE for short) and he said that I'm his G(gal)IDE. Apparently, it's as easy as that. Now, me being a commitment phobe, I get a little short of breath thinking about this fact, but I'm sure it will subside as time goes on.
Ok, so tomorrow is the last day of 2012 and with that it is the deadline of my 2012 resolution. I made it through 8 new dates and am currently exclusively dating Mr. August. So I may not have met 12 new people but did I meet Mr. Right!?! Perhaps... only time will tell!
I did learn a lot by completing this resolution. I've learned first, there are WAY more crazy people out there than I realized. Also, I've learned not to be so judgemental and give people chances. This is very difficult and still a challenge to keep in mind but it's a process! :) I may not have found exactly what I was looking for, but perhaps I found what I need.
Mike is fun, caring, honest, and looking forward to what the future holds just as I am. A new blog with a new resolution will be popping up within the next week... still pondering ideas! Happy 2013!!!
Sunday, December 30, 2012
Monday, December 17, 2012
Date 2- Mr. August
So yesterday, we were suppose to go bowling at 9am. However, I was not feeling well so I decided to change plans and break my "no movie before established relationship" rule and head to a movie. He paid for the movie, and I bought snacks (bonus for earning a free small popcorn with my rewards card). We saw Playing For Keeps- at least I think that is the name of the movie.. I keep messing up the title. He DIDN'T cry so that was a plus! There was witty banter prior to previews and he enjoys the previews just as much as I do! :) The arm rest did go up, but that was the only thing (that I know of)... our hands stayed in our respectable space. He had to work night shift so, after the movie we went our separate ways with plans to hopefully meet up sometime next week. His son is in town this weekend and will be with him until after the new year. I'm hoping to go to trivia night next week and I invited him to stop by before his night shift. I feel a good connection with Mike. He's funny and genuinely sweet, and he doesn't cry during sappy movies. Stay tuned...
Sunday, December 9, 2012
R.I.P Mr. July
Ok, So Mr. July didn't physically die, but him as a dating prospect has. He lasted the longest out anyone in the past so he was a great contender. However, there were so many differences between us that it would never work. He is so conservative and reserved and I'm, well... NOT! If I asked him a question, instead of being honest, he just would ignore me which didn't fly to well as you could imagine! Also, He's 38 and just now deciding to change careers to be a cop. Something wasn't fitting with that situation either. But anyway... such is life. I had fun going out and doing things with someone but if it's not going to go anywhere then what's the point? No harm done... I wasn't upset or anything when we agreed it wasn't going to work so that tells you something.... Moving on to Mr. August... I have a lot of work to do before 2013 comes around! I don't think my goal will be met! :/
Mr. August
Real Name:Mike
From: Gambrills
Date Location: The Greene Turtle- Crofton
Background info: Once I saw him in person, I knew that I had known him from somewhere but I couldn't place it. After talking for a bit, we realized that we had bowled on the same bowling league 3-4 years ago. Small world.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at The Turtle. We had to wait FOREVER for a table because it was the Skins vs. Ravens Game and I thought by being an hour early would have been enough time to grab a seat. Apparently not. 1.5 hours would have done it though! We waited for about an hour and luckily we got a table for 2 just as the game was starting! We ordered food and conversed... conversation was flowy and he is pretty funny. Didn't seem awkward or anything. After the game was over and we meandered our way through the rowdy skins fans that were hopped up on adrenaline from a FANTASTIC WIN (HTTR) he walked me to my car and said he had a good time and he hopes we can hang out again. About 30 minutes later, he texted me and said he hoped I had as much fun as he did and to have a good evening... so nice and thoughtful is he!
Pros: nice guy, paid for "date", kept using "future" words which suggested another date, hard worker (works 2 jobs)
Cons: Not so straight teeth (you all know how I am about teeth!), has a 12 year old son which he doesn't see as much as he would like, poker player (but he's apparently a good one!)
He seems like a nice guy and easy to talk to... I'm looking forward to date 2 with Mr. August. I'm not sure if there's going to be sparks or fireworks but... never know! :)
From: Gambrills
Date Location: The Greene Turtle- Crofton
Background info: Once I saw him in person, I knew that I had known him from somewhere but I couldn't place it. After talking for a bit, we realized that we had bowled on the same bowling league 3-4 years ago. Small world.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at The Turtle. We had to wait FOREVER for a table because it was the Skins vs. Ravens Game and I thought by being an hour early would have been enough time to grab a seat. Apparently not. 1.5 hours would have done it though! We waited for about an hour and luckily we got a table for 2 just as the game was starting! We ordered food and conversed... conversation was flowy and he is pretty funny. Didn't seem awkward or anything. After the game was over and we meandered our way through the rowdy skins fans that were hopped up on adrenaline from a FANTASTIC WIN (HTTR) he walked me to my car and said he had a good time and he hopes we can hang out again. About 30 minutes later, he texted me and said he hoped I had as much fun as he did and to have a good evening... so nice and thoughtful is he!
Pros: nice guy, paid for "date", kept using "future" words which suggested another date, hard worker (works 2 jobs)
Cons: Not so straight teeth (you all know how I am about teeth!), has a 12 year old son which he doesn't see as much as he would like, poker player (but he's apparently a good one!)
He seems like a nice guy and easy to talk to... I'm looking forward to date 2 with Mr. August. I'm not sure if there's going to be sparks or fireworks but... never know! :)
Saturday, October 20, 2012
Mr. July: Third Date
So, the third date wasn't planned to be until Sunday (tomorrow).... but I figured I would see if he wanted to go see a movie (Alex Cross) with me yesterday. Now, this is a big deal because I prefer to see movies in the theater alone. 1 reason is because I don't have to worry if the other person is having a good time and the 2nd reason is I get a bit distracted because movie theaters make me frisky and 3- I don't like going as a "date" activity because you can't talk-well, it's frowned upon by other movie goers, go figure! I figured he might not feel up to coming out because he spent the whole day volunteering for some golf tournament and wasn't suppose to get done til 5:00 or so. Anyway, he said he would and we met at the theater since I had Moll-Doo in the car! (PITA dog, but gotta love her). I had gotten the tickets earlier, thank goodness because the line was horrendous and the line inside where they tear your stub was getting longer by the second. He asked how he could pay me back since I already got the tickets and I told him don't worry about it. I got this date. He bought the snacks! We got in the theater way early so it gave us a good amount of time to scope out prime seats (I'm a seat snob) and chit chat for a bit. The movie was good and he enjoyed it as well. Our hands stayed within their owner's space. When the movie was over, we walked over to Yolavie (frozen yogurt place) that's next door. First time we both have been there and let me tell you, so fun and delish! He paid for that as well. We sat for a bit and ate our Fro-Yo. He then walked me to my car (like usual) and then an awkward moment! I had a feeling a kiss would occur since it came up in conversation the previous date.... but instead of "letting it happen" he leaned in while I was a good foot away with lips puckered. I thought about watching him stand there for a bit to see what would happen, but I didn't. Other than the awkwardness of it, it was your regular PG13 kiss. In and out- no tonsil hockey. No tongue action.... just lip to lip contact and that's all. It felt a little forced to me. We are suppose to meet up Sunday morning for breakfast and bowling. Perhaps if there is a kiss tomorrow it will be less weird. I'm a bit worried he's too conservative and "safe" for me to keep interest going. He's a great guy but so far, there's no butterflies or oogly feelings that make me want to rip his clothing off! He's cute, smart and good company... but I'm not sure they pass
Sunday, October 14, 2012
Mr. July:Second Date
Second Date Deets: The original plan he came up with included Molly. We were going to walk her and then dinner. However, she has now realized that even when I leave her out of her crate, that I still leave. So, I got a new thingy-ma-bob that sends a noise that she can hear that I can't (although I'm convinced it gives me a headache) when she barks. I wanted her to get exposed to it tonight so it's not "new" to her in the morning when I leave for work. Side note: I hope it works, because I'm running out of ideas! Ok, so new plan was in effect and I met him at Columbia Mall where we
walked around for a bit before it closed. (6:00 seems a bit early to
close even on a Sunday, but anyway). We went to Oakley store so he
could look around. He asked if I wanted to go anywhere and I admitted to
not being a big shopper (unless there is a Staple/Office Depot around)
which he admitted to being. After the mall began closing, we walked to
P.F. Chang's for dinner. DELICIOUS! Conversation was good and I ate a
mint leaf (part of it) just because it was too tempting not to try it!
Then he tried it too! He was not a fan as I was but at least he's
adventurous and tries things! I like that about him! I also like
exclamation marks apparently! We got fortune cookies and he wouldn't
share his fortune with me. He put it in his wallet and he said he hopes
it will happen and if he shares it then it won't. He will share it with
me in the future, he hopes. ;) Future is a good word! A bit scary....but
good. Better than Past, Previous or Ex. My fortune wasn't really a
fortune, it was more like words of wisdom and I can't recall what it
said exactly but it was along the lines of Don't be critical... hmmm..
kismet! So he already mentioned seeing me again, possibly this Friday.
He opens doors... which is nice and chivalrous and all, but double doors
(one door and then another door in front) are tricky. So, he opens the
first door, and then I go through but now I'm in front of him so he
rushed to open the next door. I'm quite capable of opening a door,
honestly. I don't want to just stand there like I'm an invalid or
pretentious waiting for him to open the door, but it's nice that he says
"I got it" and attempts to get it before I get to it! :) Some doors are
heavy... by all means OPEN THOSE! He paid and I got to have my
fantastic banana spring rolls and veggie wraps! Fantastic dinner! He
smelled good again too. Abercrombie Fierce... YUM! He seems way more
romantic and swoony (that should be a word!) than me, but perhaps it's
what I need after all the terrible luck with men in the past. It's nice
being with someone who is a gentleman and a good person at heart. This
is new territory for me... treading lightly! This post might be super
long! Perhaps Third Date Deets will be posted Friday! Stay tuned......
Thursday, October 11, 2012
Mr. July
Real Name: James
From: Owings Mills
Date Location: The Greene Turtle- Crofton
Background info: He's Korean-American and was adopted as a baby. He has no desire to search for his birth parents. He's close (but not weird close) to his parents. An only child. He works at BMW in the retail dept.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at The Turtle. He stood up (decked out in American Eagle attire- I'm not sure how I feel about this at the moment) and shook my hand and then introduced himself when I found him. He had a water in front of him and when I questioned him about his choice of liquid, he stated he didn't want to drink beer unless I was so he was waiting for me to order. I quickly informed him that when at The Turtle there is no "choice" of beverage. It is known that Sam Adams Seasonal IS the drink! He understood, begged forgiveness for not knowing this rule. I didn't judge but did tell him he had a strike...ok, I'm getting WAY into this creative writing thing... back up to begging forgiveness, he ordered a Coors (now THAT should be a strike!) and I impressed him with my taste buds of steel by ordering the "blazing hot" wings. Umm, Date Food Ordering Deets Tangent: Just FYI, those things ARE in fact BLAZING HOT! The first one catches you by surprise, the second creates a burning/tingling sensation, the third one makes you feel like your lips are going to fall off and then the last three go down easy because your body is in shock! Back to the Date Deets: conversation flowed well. It happened to be trivia night (which is AWESOME!). He contributed 2 (correct) answers out of 20, which could be a potential problem, but we will see if he can keep up in the smarts dept. as time goes on. Not everyone is innately brilliant as I.... such is life! :) After trivia ended, he walked me to my car, which was extra nice since he was freezing. He asked for a hug... and I obliged. He smelled real good! :) He said a few times throughout the night that he was having a great time- perhaps he doesn't get out much?!? It was a fun time, for a first date anyway. Nothing too awkward or weird. Mr. July overall was worth the wait... makes me a bit nervous too because he's the most "normal" and the most genuine of all the months. Commitmentphobe? NAH... well, not really, ... maybe?
Pros: Owns a house, dresses preppy (this is also a negative because I'm not sure how I feel about this), works out often, nice, paid for date, funny in a quirky way, he told me to text him when I got home so he knew I made it safely- how nice!
Cons: Now, these cons might not be "cons" to others, but to me... I'm not sure how I feel about these yet, so let's start with dresses preppy, mentioned his mom wants to have a grandchild, and he seems to be the settling down type. Like I said, could just be me making the aforementioned things cons but we will see. Perhaps he will be the one to make me view them as pros. I did say I was going to meet my future ex husband prior to meeting him, so.... never know!
Post Date Status: I asked if we were going to hang out again and he said he would like that. I told him to plan the next one since I set up the first.... I'm still waiting to hear what his idea is!
From: Owings Mills
Date Location: The Greene Turtle- Crofton
Background info: He's Korean-American and was adopted as a baby. He has no desire to search for his birth parents. He's close (but not weird close) to his parents. An only child. He works at BMW in the retail dept.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at The Turtle. He stood up (decked out in American Eagle attire- I'm not sure how I feel about this at the moment) and shook my hand and then introduced himself when I found him. He had a water in front of him and when I questioned him about his choice of liquid, he stated he didn't want to drink beer unless I was so he was waiting for me to order. I quickly informed him that when at The Turtle there is no "choice" of beverage. It is known that Sam Adams Seasonal IS the drink! He understood, begged forgiveness for not knowing this rule. I didn't judge but did tell him he had a strike...ok, I'm getting WAY into this creative writing thing... back up to begging forgiveness, he ordered a Coors (now THAT should be a strike!) and I impressed him with my taste buds of steel by ordering the "blazing hot" wings. Umm, Date Food Ordering Deets Tangent: Just FYI, those things ARE in fact BLAZING HOT! The first one catches you by surprise, the second creates a burning/tingling sensation, the third one makes you feel like your lips are going to fall off and then the last three go down easy because your body is in shock! Back to the Date Deets: conversation flowed well. It happened to be trivia night (which is AWESOME!). He contributed 2 (correct) answers out of 20, which could be a potential problem, but we will see if he can keep up in the smarts dept. as time goes on. Not everyone is innately brilliant as I.... such is life! :) After trivia ended, he walked me to my car, which was extra nice since he was freezing. He asked for a hug... and I obliged. He smelled real good! :) He said a few times throughout the night that he was having a great time- perhaps he doesn't get out much?!? It was a fun time, for a first date anyway. Nothing too awkward or weird. Mr. July overall was worth the wait... makes me a bit nervous too because he's the most "normal" and the most genuine of all the months. Commitmentphobe? NAH... well, not really, ... maybe?
Pros: Owns a house, dresses preppy (this is also a negative because I'm not sure how I feel about this), works out often, nice, paid for date, funny in a quirky way, he told me to text him when I got home so he knew I made it safely- how nice!
Cons: Now, these cons might not be "cons" to others, but to me... I'm not sure how I feel about these yet, so let's start with dresses preppy, mentioned his mom wants to have a grandchild, and he seems to be the settling down type. Like I said, could just be me making the aforementioned things cons but we will see. Perhaps he will be the one to make me view them as pros. I did say I was going to meet my future ex husband prior to meeting him, so.... never know!
Post Date Status: I asked if we were going to hang out again and he said he would like that. I told him to plan the next one since I set up the first.... I'm still waiting to hear what his idea is!
Friday, March 23, 2012
Mr. June
Real Name: Jason
From: Odenton
Date Location: Applebees at Waugh Chapel
Background info: Went to same highschool as me (Arundel, Go Wildcats) and since the Gambrills/Odenton/Crofton area is so small, I'm not ready to put his name out there just yet. Someone is bound to know him! He has a 13 year old son which he sees every other weekend and an 8 year old daughter which he keeps except every other weekend. Owns his own towing/repo business and is a Vol. FF.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at Applebees at 6:30 and left Applebees at 8:45ish. Great conversation was had. Awesome Bruschetta Chicken (or perhaps it's Chicken Bruschetta), if you've never had it before I definitely recommend. Ok, so back to the Date Deets: He didn't hesitate to pay. I offered, as usual, and he refused-smart man!
Pros: Cute, an adult with an adult job, hard worker, he cooks, he's responsible.
Cons: .... I'll get back to you on this! (I know, hard to believe, right? Right!!!)
Post Date Status: He walked me to my car and looked at all the "issues" I complained about and he said "those are easy fixes". WOO HOO! Hell, if he's going to fix up my car, that's worth a second date in itself. I'm a simple girl! :) Fix my car and love my dog, that's the way to my heart! He told me to text him when I got home so he knows I made it ok. The following is the conversation had up to this point of the night transcribed from cell texts:
Me: Thanks for dinner! I'm home.
Mr. June: Ur welcome I had a good time I hope you did!
Me: Yes I did, ur easy to talk to!
Mr. June: Would u b interested in a 2nd date?
Me: Absolutely! :)
Mr. June: :)
Mr June = Mr. Junetastic!
Second Date (taken place the following day): Now, let me preface the following date deets by mentioning that I usually prefer to watch a movie alone for a few reasons: 1.) You don't have to worry about it the other person is enjoying themselves. 2.) you don't have to stress about being late because your arrival time is only determined by you. 3.) I get a bit "twitterpatted" in movie theaters for an unknown reason and have a hard time concentrating on the movie when a male counterpart is along side me! 4.) You can't get to know someone in a theater because apparently talking in a theater is frowned upon (so is texting/emailing during a movie- who knew!!!!) 5.) I just like doing things on my own!
After lunch with my sis and adorable Baby Niece (No, that's not her name but it's what I call her! Be kind of weird if her name was Baby Niece! LOL.) I felt the desire to go to the movies. I haven't been to the theaters in a bit and normally I would go alone but I felt the desire to see if Mr. June was interested. He said YES and I was a bit hesitant to follow through because he seemed a bit more interested in seeing Mr. Channing Tatum than to see me, but figured what-the-hell! So, since I was already in the Annapolis area, I told him I would meet him there and get the tickets. He asked if I was sure and I said yes. I don't mind paying for a date especially if it's my idea and it's not the first one! So, he got there a bit later than I would have liked and previews were already happening ( HMMMMPH!) but we found a decent (not top middle mind you) seat. We watched the movie, our own hands stayed in our respective spaces despite the fact the arm rest between us was in the upright position (nothing else was- I don't think!). After the movie, we figured out that we were parked on opposite ends of the mall, and he offered to walk me to my car but I told him it was not necessary because it is far and he had to get home to get ready for his Guy's Night Out! It's nice to know that chivalry is not totally dead! I wasn't to my car yet (I did park in BFE), and he texted me " Thank u I had a great time". So that's always nice to hear! I told him third date is on him to plan and it could be a couple of weeks before that happens since he gets his daughter back Monday and will have her next weekend. No rush anyway! :)
Third Date: ...... ........ ..... That's right! There will be no third date. I caught Jason in a couple itty bitty lies or mis-truths and he seems too busy with his work crap. Therefore, I told him to call me when he has time to date and has his work stuff figured out because I can't wait in the wings wondering when I will hear/see him again. I've done that once and the guy ended up being married- LESSON LEARNED! It's a shame because I actually liked Jason and of course I could have pointed out tons of flaws like I do with everyone, but I was willing to look past all of them because he seemed like a good guy.... Now, perhaps the mis-truths that he told were him legitimately trying to tell the truth but I'm not sure...and when there is doubt, that's no good! I know more than ever to go with my gut and that's what I'll do! If he is that interested in me, he knows where I can be found and he can make his feelings known! Until then...onto Mr. July search! :)
***Update*** Ok, so I totally forgot that I wrote the above "Third Date" and I thought about deleting it (as well as changing the whole website so that certain people can't read this site anymore), but then I wouldn't be expressing my honest feelings and I don't want to hide how I'm feeling- negative or positive. So I will just add an update to "Mr. June". I have kept him in my head even though he hadn't reached out to me AT ALL! But I simply couldn't shake him. I communicated with a couple possible "Mr. Julys" but neither of them really seemed worth the effort (and yes, dating takes a hell of a lot of effort!). I also, wasn't really feeling like meeting anyone new and truly missed Mr. June's "gm" and "gn, sd" texts (you're smart, you can figure those out). So, I put on my big girl panties and decided to reach out to Mr. June about a day or so ago and see what happens. Well, turns out he misunderstood/misread a text and/or this blog -apparently, he's keeping tabs on me! ;) So, since then, we've chatted about what we've missed in one another's (ugh stupid spell check- i don't like the damn red squiggle under "another's" but can't find a good synonym. p.s "other's" red squiggles too) life for the past 2-3 weeks since our non-communication hiatus as well as what went sour in our "relationship". We seem to have picked up where we left off and hopefully, now that the air has been cleared a bit, it will continue onward and upward from here. Apparently, I have flaws too (who knew?) and if he's willing to oversee them and be willing to spend his time with me, then I certainly am appreciative of that. I'm not the easiest person to get a long with (again, who knew?) so... we will see how long he decides to put up with me this time! :) I will do my best not to put on my running shoes and flee the scene. If you know me at all, I have a tendency to do so and it's amazing that I'm actually looking forward to a THIRD DATE with someone! When will Third Date be? Who knows... hopefully soonish! I'll keep ya'll posted!
From: Odenton
Date Location: Applebees at Waugh Chapel
Background info: Went to same highschool as me (Arundel, Go Wildcats) and since the Gambrills/Odenton/Crofton area is so small, I'm not ready to put his name out there just yet. Someone is bound to know him! He has a 13 year old son which he sees every other weekend and an 8 year old daughter which he keeps except every other weekend. Owns his own towing/repo business and is a Vol. FF.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at Applebees at 6:30 and left Applebees at 8:45ish. Great conversation was had. Awesome Bruschetta Chicken (or perhaps it's Chicken Bruschetta), if you've never had it before I definitely recommend. Ok, so back to the Date Deets: He didn't hesitate to pay. I offered, as usual, and he refused-smart man!
Pros: Cute, an adult with an adult job, hard worker, he cooks, he's responsible.
Cons: .... I'll get back to you on this! (I know, hard to believe, right? Right!!!)
Post Date Status: He walked me to my car and looked at all the "issues" I complained about and he said "those are easy fixes". WOO HOO! Hell, if he's going to fix up my car, that's worth a second date in itself. I'm a simple girl! :) Fix my car and love my dog, that's the way to my heart! He told me to text him when I got home so he knows I made it ok. The following is the conversation had up to this point of the night transcribed from cell texts:
Me: Thanks for dinner! I'm home.
Mr. June: Ur welcome I had a good time I hope you did!
Me: Yes I did, ur easy to talk to!
Mr. June: Would u b interested in a 2nd date?
Me: Absolutely! :)
Mr. June: :)
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| Mr. June gets 2 thumbs up...but one thumb is pushing a shutter button! |
Second Date (taken place the following day): Now, let me preface the following date deets by mentioning that I usually prefer to watch a movie alone for a few reasons: 1.) You don't have to worry about it the other person is enjoying themselves. 2.) you don't have to stress about being late because your arrival time is only determined by you. 3.) I get a bit "twitterpatted" in movie theaters for an unknown reason and have a hard time concentrating on the movie when a male counterpart is along side me! 4.) You can't get to know someone in a theater because apparently talking in a theater is frowned upon (so is texting/emailing during a movie- who knew!!!!) 5.) I just like doing things on my own!
After lunch with my sis and adorable Baby Niece (No, that's not her name but it's what I call her! Be kind of weird if her name was Baby Niece! LOL.) I felt the desire to go to the movies. I haven't been to the theaters in a bit and normally I would go alone but I felt the desire to see if Mr. June was interested. He said YES and I was a bit hesitant to follow through because he seemed a bit more interested in seeing Mr. Channing Tatum than to see me, but figured what-the-hell! So, since I was already in the Annapolis area, I told him I would meet him there and get the tickets. He asked if I was sure and I said yes. I don't mind paying for a date especially if it's my idea and it's not the first one! So, he got there a bit later than I would have liked and previews were already happening ( HMMMMPH!) but we found a decent (not top middle mind you) seat. We watched the movie, our own hands stayed in our respective spaces despite the fact the arm rest between us was in the upright position (nothing else was- I don't think!). After the movie, we figured out that we were parked on opposite ends of the mall, and he offered to walk me to my car but I told him it was not necessary because it is far and he had to get home to get ready for his Guy's Night Out! It's nice to know that chivalry is not totally dead! I wasn't to my car yet (I did park in BFE), and he texted me " Thank u I had a great time". So that's always nice to hear! I told him third date is on him to plan and it could be a couple of weeks before that happens since he gets his daughter back Monday and will have her next weekend. No rush anyway! :)
Third Date: ...... ........ ..... That's right! There will be no third date. I caught Jason in a couple itty bitty lies or mis-truths and he seems too busy with his work crap. Therefore, I told him to call me when he has time to date and has his work stuff figured out because I can't wait in the wings wondering when I will hear/see him again. I've done that once and the guy ended up being married- LESSON LEARNED! It's a shame because I actually liked Jason and of course I could have pointed out tons of flaws like I do with everyone, but I was willing to look past all of them because he seemed like a good guy.... Now, perhaps the mis-truths that he told were him legitimately trying to tell the truth but I'm not sure...and when there is doubt, that's no good! I know more than ever to go with my gut and that's what I'll do! If he is that interested in me, he knows where I can be found and he can make his feelings known! Until then...onto Mr. July search! :)
***Update*** Ok, so I totally forgot that I wrote the above "Third Date" and I thought about deleting it (as well as changing the whole website so that certain people can't read this site anymore), but then I wouldn't be expressing my honest feelings and I don't want to hide how I'm feeling- negative or positive. So I will just add an update to "Mr. June". I have kept him in my head even though he hadn't reached out to me AT ALL! But I simply couldn't shake him. I communicated with a couple possible "Mr. Julys" but neither of them really seemed worth the effort (and yes, dating takes a hell of a lot of effort!). I also, wasn't really feeling like meeting anyone new and truly missed Mr. June's "gm" and "gn, sd" texts (you're smart, you can figure those out). So, I put on my big girl panties and decided to reach out to Mr. June about a day or so ago and see what happens. Well, turns out he misunderstood/misread a text and/or this blog -apparently, he's keeping tabs on me! ;) So, since then, we've chatted about what we've missed in one another's (ugh stupid spell check- i don't like the damn red squiggle under "another's" but can't find a good synonym. p.s "other's" red squiggles too) life for the past 2-3 weeks since our non-communication hiatus as well as what went sour in our "relationship". We seem to have picked up where we left off and hopefully, now that the air has been cleared a bit, it will continue onward and upward from here. Apparently, I have flaws too (who knew?) and if he's willing to oversee them and be willing to spend his time with me, then I certainly am appreciative of that. I'm not the easiest person to get a long with (again, who knew?) so... we will see how long he decides to put up with me this time! :) I will do my best not to put on my running shoes and flee the scene. If you know me at all, I have a tendency to do so and it's amazing that I'm actually looking forward to a THIRD DATE with someone! When will Third Date be? Who knows... hopefully soonish! I'll keep ya'll posted!
Saturday, March 10, 2012
Mr. May
Real Name: Carlos
From: South of LaPlata
Date Location: Starbucks- Bowie Town Center
Background info: From Spain. Served in the Navy. Lived with ex gf (she:teacher, cheated on him with guidance counselor from her work). He moved out of place with her and into a place with 2 guys that were roommates of his friend. Contemplating moving in with his mom while lease runs out on his apt because he doesn't get along with mates. Friends with all females. Nice car which he trades in every 5 years. Likes to "shop". Has a watch bigger than my fist- no, "watch" is not a euphemism for anything else! Strong accent- difficult to understand some words at times. Works as an accountant.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at Starbucks. He didn't hesitate to buy me a skinny vanilla latte! He got a hot chocolate (cocoa-lol). We chatted about things. Then we walked a mile to his car so he could smoke-:( where we chatted some more. Got an awesome shoulder/neck massage where he proceeded to say "damn, you have a lot of knots in your neck. You need a professional massage to get those out." And I proceeded to tell him "It's March, I'm a teacher and next week is MSA. What do you expect?"
Pros: Adorable. Has a career where he makes a good living. Paid for my latte. Dresses preppy-ish. Good sense of humor.
Cons: Self proclaimed as "vengeful" because his ex hurt him and he can't let that go after a year. Lives an hour away. Not so straight teeth. Has a desire to move out of state.
Post
Date Status: I told him I was going to head back to my car. He offered to drive me to my car but I told him i would walk. He text me about 20 min. later asking me what I thought and I asked him same thing. He said I was cute, despite the largest zit (see pic!) in the entire world parking itself under my nose today! He claims to be single by choice... and he said that he just wants to let things happen. If something more comes about than just friends then so beit. I'm looking forward to a second date with Mr. May.....
From: South of LaPlata
Date Location: Starbucks- Bowie Town Center
Background info: From Spain. Served in the Navy. Lived with ex gf (she:teacher, cheated on him with guidance counselor from her work). He moved out of place with her and into a place with 2 guys that were roommates of his friend. Contemplating moving in with his mom while lease runs out on his apt because he doesn't get along with mates. Friends with all females. Nice car which he trades in every 5 years. Likes to "shop". Has a watch bigger than my fist- no, "watch" is not a euphemism for anything else! Strong accent- difficult to understand some words at times. Works as an accountant.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at Starbucks. He didn't hesitate to buy me a skinny vanilla latte! He got a hot chocolate (cocoa-lol). We chatted about things. Then we walked a mile to his car so he could smoke-:( where we chatted some more. Got an awesome shoulder/neck massage where he proceeded to say "damn, you have a lot of knots in your neck. You need a professional massage to get those out." And I proceeded to tell him "It's March, I'm a teacher and next week is MSA. What do you expect?"
Pros: Adorable. Has a career where he makes a good living. Paid for my latte. Dresses preppy-ish. Good sense of humor.
Cons: Self proclaimed as "vengeful" because his ex hurt him and he can't let that go after a year. Lives an hour away. Not so straight teeth. Has a desire to move out of state.
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Sunday, March 4, 2012
Mr. April
Real Name: Koby
From: Bowie
Date Location: Panera -Bowie Town Center
Background info: Lives with his best friend in Bowie. Works for a local newspaper doing advertising. Didn't look like ANY of his pics that he sent me, similar but like the pics were a good 5 years old. Never been married.No kids. He was engaged but the girl's dad didn't like him and he got laid off from his job way back when and felt like he couldn't do right by her so he called off the engagement. He now considers that to be the worst mistake of his life. He recently reached out to her on FB and now they are cordial and she has married someone else.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at Panera where he was about 10 minutes late (granted he lives right behind the center). He paid for lunch but as soon as we sat down he got a phone call that he said "this is my cousin. I was trying to reach him earlier but he didn't answer. I'll be right back." He left me in the booth staring at my delicious veggie sandwich (with not as much feta on it as I would have liked) and I was too polite to begin eating without him (I do have manners). When he returned from his "around the corner phone call" he said, "That actually wasn't my cousin. It was my mom." Apparently, his mom was at Wegman's and wanted to know if he needed anything. Hmmm... did he not see "mom" on the caller ID when the phone was making an obnoxious sound? MOM.... COUSIN... nope, those words don't look alike to me! Anyway, we ate and conversed (conversated should really be a word!). At one point on the date, he broke out singing Billy Idol's Rebel Yell! Now, I don't embarrass easily but that made me wish I had a tranquilizer dart handy! Unfortunately I left my blow dart gun at home! There's something you should never leave home without! When I told him I was going to head out he continued to sit there and not budge. I asked if he was going to hang out there for a bit or what. He said he was going to hang out there for 2 hours or so. I said "ok" and then he said "I'm just joking". I don't get it! I said bye and there he sat! He had a not-so-funny one liner every minute and it became a tedious task to smile and pretend giggle that many times within a short time frame.
Pros: Very intelligent. Paid for date.
Cons: Seems to dwell on past events (aka ex fiance). NO physical attraction (note the cap. letters). 10 years older than me and lives with best friend. Very intelligent (pro and con).
Post Date Status: At end of date, he asked if we were going to hang out again. I said sure, you call me or I'll call you and we'll figure something out. In all honesty, I wold hang out with him again but I would be sure to let him know that it will never be anything more than just 2 people hanging out because nothing better is going on. I have enough friends (god only knows how/why they put up with me) that I don't need him to be a friend either (see Mr. March post about my theory on male/female friendships). So far (it's only been one day) I have not heard from him, nor have I reached out to him. For all I know, he is thinking the same things I am about me.
From: Bowie
Date Location: Panera -Bowie Town Center
Background info: Lives with his best friend in Bowie. Works for a local newspaper doing advertising. Didn't look like ANY of his pics that he sent me, similar but like the pics were a good 5 years old. Never been married.No kids. He was engaged but the girl's dad didn't like him and he got laid off from his job way back when and felt like he couldn't do right by her so he called off the engagement. He now considers that to be the worst mistake of his life. He recently reached out to her on FB and now they are cordial and she has married someone else.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at Panera where he was about 10 minutes late (granted he lives right behind the center). He paid for lunch but as soon as we sat down he got a phone call that he said "this is my cousin. I was trying to reach him earlier but he didn't answer. I'll be right back." He left me in the booth staring at my delicious veggie sandwich (with not as much feta on it as I would have liked) and I was too polite to begin eating without him (I do have manners). When he returned from his "around the corner phone call" he said, "That actually wasn't my cousin. It was my mom." Apparently, his mom was at Wegman's and wanted to know if he needed anything. Hmmm... did he not see "mom" on the caller ID when the phone was making an obnoxious sound? MOM.... COUSIN... nope, those words don't look alike to me! Anyway, we ate and conversed (conversated should really be a word!). At one point on the date, he broke out singing Billy Idol's Rebel Yell! Now, I don't embarrass easily but that made me wish I had a tranquilizer dart handy! Unfortunately I left my blow dart gun at home! There's something you should never leave home without! When I told him I was going to head out he continued to sit there and not budge. I asked if he was going to hang out there for a bit or what. He said he was going to hang out there for 2 hours or so. I said "ok" and then he said "I'm just joking". I don't get it! I said bye and there he sat! He had a not-so-funny one liner every minute and it became a tedious task to smile and pretend giggle that many times within a short time frame.
Pros: Very intelligent. Paid for date.
Cons: Seems to dwell on past events (aka ex fiance). NO physical attraction (note the cap. letters). 10 years older than me and lives with best friend. Very intelligent (pro and con).
Post Date Status: At end of date, he asked if we were going to hang out again. I said sure, you call me or I'll call you and we'll figure something out. In all honesty, I wold hang out with him again but I would be sure to let him know that it will never be anything more than just 2 people hanging out because nothing better is going on. I have enough friends (god only knows how/why they put up with me) that I don't need him to be a friend either (see Mr. March post about my theory on male/female friendships). So far (it's only been one day) I have not heard from him, nor have I reached out to him. For all I know, he is thinking the same things I am about me.
Saturday, February 11, 2012
Mr. March
Real Name: Billy
From: Glen Burnie
Date Location: Crofton Bowling Alley
Background info: Has a 13 year old son that he rarely sees because "the mom is psycho". When asked why he doesn't have a custody agreement, he states that the mom receives medicare and he pays child support based on his salary when he was 19. Therefore, if he were to cause a stink about custody, she would lose medicare benefits and he would have to pay a lot more for child support. So he is willing to save money and not see his son (see Cons). He lives with a female friend and spends large amounts of money on "things". Also, he was diagnosed as bipolar 2 years ago and is very angry if he's not on meds. (see Cons).
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at the bowling alley where we were placed on a waiting list due to being overcrowded. We sat in the bar for about an hour and a half mostly talking about him and his "stuff". He came across very materialistic but he says he grew up poor and so now he buys the finer things and enjoys them. Within the first half hour of talking he pointed out that the watch he was wearing cost $600. He reminded me A LOT of Clay Booth!!! :) I'm sure he used ONLY water based moisturizer like Clay as well- to protect that baby smooth face! He talked a lot of crap about how he was going to whip my butt in bowling but when it came to it, I won 3 out of 4 games. He was a gracious loser which surprised me and we were very comfortable and flirtatious. Very good date! At the end of the date, he asked if he earned a second date. I said "yes" and we talked on the phone that night and set up a second date for the aquarium.
Pros: Nice guy. Paid for date and didn't hesitate to pay for the date. Refused to take any part of my money. Fantastic kisser! He reminds me a lot of Clay.
Cons: More materialistic than me. Money oriented- granted to some this might be a pro, but I don't need or want "flashy" items and certainly don't want to be with someone who brags about the amount of money they spend. He has a lot of female friends. To me, males and females can't be "friends". Someone always catches feelings and we weren't made to be friends with the opposite sex. We were made opposites for breeding purposes! A guy who has a lot of female friends is a red flag. Bipolar-'nuff said.He reminds me a lot of Clay.
Post Date Status: He texted the next morning and we went back and forth all morning about normal conversation stuff. Then out of the blue, he sends a text that said "I don't want to explain but it's not going to work out between us." UM- ok, crazy! I haven't heard from him since and haven't had the desire to contact him either.
From: Glen Burnie
Date Location: Crofton Bowling Alley
Background info: Has a 13 year old son that he rarely sees because "the mom is psycho". When asked why he doesn't have a custody agreement, he states that the mom receives medicare and he pays child support based on his salary when he was 19. Therefore, if he were to cause a stink about custody, she would lose medicare benefits and he would have to pay a lot more for child support. So he is willing to save money and not see his son (see Cons). He lives with a female friend and spends large amounts of money on "things". Also, he was diagnosed as bipolar 2 years ago and is very angry if he's not on meds. (see Cons).
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at the bowling alley where we were placed on a waiting list due to being overcrowded. We sat in the bar for about an hour and a half mostly talking about him and his "stuff". He came across very materialistic but he says he grew up poor and so now he buys the finer things and enjoys them. Within the first half hour of talking he pointed out that the watch he was wearing cost $600. He reminded me A LOT of Clay Booth!!! :) I'm sure he used ONLY water based moisturizer like Clay as well- to protect that baby smooth face! He talked a lot of crap about how he was going to whip my butt in bowling but when it came to it, I won 3 out of 4 games. He was a gracious loser which surprised me and we were very comfortable and flirtatious. Very good date! At the end of the date, he asked if he earned a second date. I said "yes" and we talked on the phone that night and set up a second date for the aquarium.
Pros: Nice guy. Paid for date and didn't hesitate to pay for the date. Refused to take any part of my money. Fantastic kisser! He reminds me a lot of Clay.
Cons: More materialistic than me. Money oriented- granted to some this might be a pro, but I don't need or want "flashy" items and certainly don't want to be with someone who brags about the amount of money they spend. He has a lot of female friends. To me, males and females can't be "friends". Someone always catches feelings and we weren't made to be friends with the opposite sex. We were made opposites for breeding purposes! A guy who has a lot of female friends is a red flag. Bipolar-'nuff said.He reminds me a lot of Clay.
Post Date Status: He texted the next morning and we went back and forth all morning about normal conversation stuff. Then out of the blue, he sends a text that said "I don't want to explain but it's not going to work out between us." UM- ok, crazy! I haven't heard from him since and haven't had the desire to contact him either.
Sunday, January 15, 2012
Mr. February
Real Name: Dave
From: Pasadena
Date Location: Buffalo Wild Wings @ Annapolis
Background info: Dave dated an alcoholic for 4 years and got tired of being the father figure in her life so he got out of the relationship. His brother died a ways back due to a heart condition and his mother died as well for different reasons. He is close with his father and sister in law (brother's widow). He doesn't have kids of his own and was never married.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at BWW. Ate some food, watched some football. Good conversation. I paid for my part of the meal. We left the date saying "we will get in touch and hang out again". The next day, I reached out to him to see if he was interested in another date. He agreed.
Second Date Deets: We went early Sunday morning bowling at Greenway. He paid for coffee and fries. He also paid for bowling. Fun time. He left the date asking what I was doing the following weekend. I told him nothing was scheduled and he then said he would look into going to a "magic show/bar" type thing for our next date.
Post Second Date Status: The next day (Monday), he said he was sick with the flu. He was sick and didn't go to work Mon-Wed. When I asked what he was doing that weekend, he said he was recuperating and resting from being sick. After Wednesday of that week, neither of us reached out to the other one.
Pros: Nice enough guy. Easy to hold a conversation with. Paid for second date.
Cons: He did not offer to pay for date 1. No physical attraction but had "grow on you" potential. Not very assertive. Didn't "take charge" until he mentioned he would set up the third date which never happened. I had to reach out to him to see if he was interested in second date.
Update: Within the past couple of weeks (February) I noticed he was active on the dating website where I had originally met him and so I sent him a message asking him how the "search" was going. He responded with there is no search because he is not into Brazilian women, hinting that the only females out there are foreigners. No other communication happened since then.
From: Pasadena
Date Location: Buffalo Wild Wings @ Annapolis
Background info: Dave dated an alcoholic for 4 years and got tired of being the father figure in her life so he got out of the relationship. His brother died a ways back due to a heart condition and his mother died as well for different reasons. He is close with his father and sister in law (brother's widow). He doesn't have kids of his own and was never married.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at BWW. Ate some food, watched some football. Good conversation. I paid for my part of the meal. We left the date saying "we will get in touch and hang out again". The next day, I reached out to him to see if he was interested in another date. He agreed.
Second Date Deets: We went early Sunday morning bowling at Greenway. He paid for coffee and fries. He also paid for bowling. Fun time. He left the date asking what I was doing the following weekend. I told him nothing was scheduled and he then said he would look into going to a "magic show/bar" type thing for our next date.
Post Second Date Status: The next day (Monday), he said he was sick with the flu. He was sick and didn't go to work Mon-Wed. When I asked what he was doing that weekend, he said he was recuperating and resting from being sick. After Wednesday of that week, neither of us reached out to the other one.
Pros: Nice enough guy. Easy to hold a conversation with. Paid for second date.
Cons: He did not offer to pay for date 1. No physical attraction but had "grow on you" potential. Not very assertive. Didn't "take charge" until he mentioned he would set up the third date which never happened. I had to reach out to him to see if he was interested in second date.
Update: Within the past couple of weeks (February) I noticed he was active on the dating website where I had originally met him and so I sent him a message asking him how the "search" was going. He responded with there is no search because he is not into Brazilian women, hinting that the only females out there are foreigners. No other communication happened since then.
Saturday, January 7, 2012
Mr. January
Real Name: Kerry
From: Halethorpe
Date Location: Buffalo Wild Wings @ Arundel Mills Mall
Background info: Separated for a couple months. Claims the relationship was over back in June or July and divorce will be finalized in April of 2012. Has 2 daughters that he sees whenever he "asks" for them. No set custody agreement. Wife is involved in a relationship with another guy.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at BWW to have some grub and watch playoff football game. Good conversation. At beginning of 4th quarter, we left BWW and went to Dave and Buster's. We played a few games and left on a good note. I paid the tip at BWW and put 10 bucks toward D and B games.
Pros: Nice enough guy. Easy to hold a conversation with.
Cons: I was not too fond of the fact that he had 2 daughters, not yet divorced and the kids were biracial but I gave the guy a chance anyway.
Post Date Status: He called me the next day and we made small talk but neither one of us reached out to the other one to set up date 2.
From: Halethorpe
Date Location: Buffalo Wild Wings @ Arundel Mills Mall
Background info: Separated for a couple months. Claims the relationship was over back in June or July and divorce will be finalized in April of 2012. Has 2 daughters that he sees whenever he "asks" for them. No set custody agreement. Wife is involved in a relationship with another guy.
Date Deets (aka Details): Met at BWW to have some grub and watch playoff football game. Good conversation. At beginning of 4th quarter, we left BWW and went to Dave and Buster's. We played a few games and left on a good note. I paid the tip at BWW and put 10 bucks toward D and B games.
Pros: Nice enough guy. Easy to hold a conversation with.
Cons: I was not too fond of the fact that he had 2 daughters, not yet divorced and the kids were biracial but I gave the guy a chance anyway.
Post Date Status: He called me the next day and we made small talk but neither one of us reached out to the other one to set up date 2.
Sunday, January 1, 2012
The Resolution
Since I'm a single gal, and have been so for a while now, I decided to make myself a goal of meeting at least 12 new guys within 2012. My intention was that by setting this goal it would force me to put myself out there a little bit more and potentially meet Mr. Right before 2013 rolls around. This is the spot where you can keep up on my Mister of the Month and see if he has potential to last throughout the year. Now, one stipulation I added was that if I were to meet 2 guys within one month, the second would count for the following month (guy "rollover"). Once I meet my quota of 12 within one year then the rest will be considered "bonus" guys!
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