Mr. July: Third Date

So, the third date wasn't planned to be until Sunday (tomorrow).... but I figured I would see if he wanted to go see a movie (Alex Cross) with me yesterday. Now, this is a big deal because I prefer to see movies in the theater alone. 1 reason is because I don't have to worry if the other person is having a good time and the 2nd reason is I get a bit distracted because movie theaters make me frisky and 3- I don't like going as a "date" activity because you can't talk-well, it's frowned upon by other movie goers, go figure!  I figured he might not feel up to coming out because he spent the whole day volunteering for some golf tournament and wasn't suppose to get done til 5:00 or so. Anyway, he said he would and we met at the theater since I had Moll-Doo in the car! (PITA dog, but gotta love her). I had gotten the tickets earlier, thank goodness because the line was horrendous and the line inside where they tear your stub was getting longer by the second. He asked how he could pay me back since I already got the tickets and I told him don't worry about it. I got this date. He bought the snacks! We got in the theater way early so it gave us a good amount of time to scope out prime seats (I'm a seat snob) and chit chat for a bit. The movie was good and he enjoyed it as well. Our hands stayed within their owner's space. When the movie was over, we walked over to Yolavie (frozen yogurt place) that's next door. First time we both have been there and let me tell you, so fun and delish! He paid for that as well.  We sat for a bit and ate our Fro-Yo.  He then walked me to my car (like usual) and then an awkward moment! I had a feeling a kiss would occur since it came up in conversation the previous date.... but instead of "letting it happen" he leaned in while I was a good foot away with lips puckered. I thought about watching him stand there for a bit to see what would happen, but I didn't. Other than the awkwardness of it, it was your regular PG13 kiss. In and out- no tonsil hockey. No tongue action.... just lip to lip contact and that's all. It felt a little forced to me.  We are suppose to meet up Sunday morning for breakfast and bowling. Perhaps if there is a kiss tomorrow it will be less weird. I'm a bit worried he's too conservative and "safe" for me to keep interest going. He's a great guy but so far, there's no butterflies or oogly feelings that make me want to rip his clothing off! He's cute, smart and good company... but I'm not sure they pass

Mr. July:Second Date

Second Date Deets: The original plan he came up with included Molly. We were going to walk her and then dinner. However, she has now realized that even when I leave her out of her crate, that I still leave. So, I got a new thingy-ma-bob that sends a noise that she can hear that I can't (although I'm convinced it gives me a headache) when she barks. I wanted her to get exposed to it tonight so it's not "new" to her in the morning when I leave for work. Side note: I hope it works, because I'm running out of ideas! Ok, so new plan was in effect and I met him at Columbia Mall where we walked around for a bit before it closed. (6:00 seems a bit early to close even on a Sunday, but anyway).  We went to Oakley store so he could look around. He asked if I wanted to go anywhere and I admitted to not being a big shopper (unless there is a Staple/Office Depot around) which he admitted to being. After the mall began closing, we walked to P.F. Chang's for dinner. DELICIOUS! Conversation was good and I ate a mint leaf (part of it) just because it was too tempting not to try it! Then he tried it too! He was not a fan as I was but at least he's adventurous and tries things! I like that about him! I also like exclamation marks apparently!  We got fortune cookies and he wouldn't share his fortune with me. He put it in his wallet and he said he hopes it will happen and if he shares it then it won't. He will share it with me in the future, he hopes. ;) Future is a good word! A bit scary....but good. Better than Past, Previous or Ex. My fortune wasn't really a fortune, it was more like words of wisdom and I can't recall what it said exactly but it was along the lines of Don't be critical... hmmm.. kismet! So he already mentioned seeing me again, possibly this Friday.  He opens doors... which is nice and chivalrous and all, but double doors (one door and then another door in front) are tricky. So, he opens the first door, and then I go through but now I'm in front of him so he rushed to open the next door. I'm quite capable of opening a door, honestly. I don't want to just stand there like I'm an invalid or pretentious waiting for him to open the door, but it's nice that he says "I got it" and attempts to get it before I get to it! :) Some doors are heavy... by all means OPEN THOSE! He paid and I got to have my fantastic banana spring rolls and veggie wraps! Fantastic dinner! He smelled good again too. Abercrombie Fierce... YUM! He seems way more romantic and swoony (that should be a word!) than me, but perhaps it's what I need after all the terrible luck with men in the past. It's nice being with someone who is a gentleman and a good person at heart. This is new territory for me... treading lightly! This post might be super long! Perhaps Third Date Deets will be posted Friday! Stay tuned......

Mr. July

Real Name: James
From: Owings Mills
Date Location: The Greene Turtle- Crofton

Background info: He's Korean-American and was adopted as a baby.  He has no desire to search for his birth parents. He's close (but not weird close) to his parents. An only child.  He works at BMW in the retail dept.

Date Deets (aka Details): Met at The Turtle.  He stood up (decked out in American Eagle attire- I'm not sure how I feel about this at the moment) and shook my hand and then introduced himself when I found him.  He had a water in front of him and when I questioned him about his choice of liquid, he stated he didn't want to drink beer unless I was so he was waiting for me to order.  I quickly informed him that when at The Turtle there is no "choice" of beverage. It is known that Sam Adams Seasonal IS the drink! He understood, begged forgiveness for not knowing this rule. I didn't judge but did tell him he had a strike...ok, I'm getting WAY into this creative writing thing... back up to begging forgiveness, he ordered a Coors (now THAT should be a strike!) and I impressed him with my taste buds of steel by ordering the "blazing hot" wings. Umm, Date Food Ordering Deets Tangent:  Just FYI, those things ARE in fact BLAZING HOT! The first one catches you by surprise, the second creates a burning/tingling sensation, the third one makes you feel like your lips are going to fall off and then the last three go down easy because your body is in shock! Back to the Date Deets: conversation flowed well. It happened to be trivia night (which is AWESOME!).  He contributed 2 (correct) answers out of 20, which could be a potential problem, but we will see if he can keep up in the smarts dept. as time goes on. Not everyone is innately brilliant as I.... such is life! :) After trivia ended, he walked me to my car, which was extra nice since he was freezing. He asked for a hug... and I obliged. He smelled real good! :) He said a few times throughout the night that he was having a great time- perhaps he doesn't get out much?!?   It was a fun time, for a first date anyway. Nothing too awkward or weird. Mr. July overall was worth the wait... makes me a bit nervous too because he's the most "normal" and the most genuine of all the months. Commitmentphobe? NAH... well, not really, ... maybe? 

Pros: Owns a house, dresses preppy (this is also a negative because I'm not sure how I feel about this), works out often, nice, paid for date, funny in a quirky way, he told me to text him when I got home so he knew I made it safely- how nice! 

Cons: Now, these cons might not be "cons" to others, but to me... I'm not sure how I feel about these yet, so let's start with dresses preppy, mentioned his mom wants to have a grandchild, and he seems to be the settling down type. Like I said, could just be me making the aforementioned things cons but we will see. Perhaps he will be the one to make me view them as pros. I did say I was going to meet my future ex husband prior to meeting him, so.... never know! 


Post Date Status: I asked if we were going to hang out again and he said he would like that. I told him to plan the next one since I set up the first.... I'm still waiting to hear what his idea is!