Mr. August = Mr. 2012

     Third date counted as 5 dates because first we went to The Greene Turtle for food. We then went to Dave and Busters and played some games and then we went and saw This is 40. It was a long night, fun but long and therefore counts as 3 dates.  The 6th date happened this past Wednesday. It was just a lunch date. We met at Applebee's, had lunch and then went to our separate homes. His son was in town and I was not ready to meet him just yet. If we are still an item come spring break, I will be meeting his son then since that's the next time he will be in town.
     A few weeks ago, and then tonight, my brother asked "How do grown adults make a relationship exclusive?" When we were in Middle School or even in highschool perhaps asking someone if they'd like to be your bf/gf would be acceptable, but in the adult world seems kind of weird. I'll let you know how it was done with Mike and me.... Mike asked if I had any nicknames and I told him that my close friends and family call me Mesha, my family also calls me Tada and coworkers call me Reedy. (I did leave out the fact that I'm also called Fat-head and Magilicutti but those are on a need to know basis!) I told him he can call me Melissa and then he said that I can call him boyfriend. I said why don't I call him the Guy I'm Dating Exclusively (GIDE for short) and he said that I'm his G(gal)IDE. Apparently, it's as easy as that.  Now, me being a commitment phobe, I get a little short of breath thinking about this fact, but I'm sure it will subside as time goes on.  
     Ok, so tomorrow is the last day of 2012 and with that it is the deadline of my 2012 resolution. I made it through 8 new dates and am currently exclusively dating Mr. August. So I may not have met 12 new people but did I meet Mr. Right!?! Perhaps... only time will tell!
     I did learn a lot by completing this resolution. I've learned first, there are WAY more crazy people out there than I realized. Also, I've learned not to be so judgemental and give people chances.  This is very difficult and still a challenge to keep in mind but it's a process! :) I may not have found exactly what I was looking for, but perhaps I found what I need.
     Mike is fun, caring, honest, and looking forward to what the future holds just as I am.  A new blog with a new resolution will be popping up within the next week... still pondering ideas! Happy 2013!!!

Date 2- Mr. August

So yesterday, we were suppose to go bowling at 9am. However, I was not feeling well so I decided to change plans and break my "no movie before established relationship" rule and head to a movie. He paid for the movie, and I bought snacks (bonus for earning a free small popcorn with my rewards card). We saw Playing For Keeps- at least I think that is the name of the movie.. I keep messing up the title.  He DIDN'T cry so that was a plus! There was witty banter prior to previews and he enjoys the previews just as much as I do! :) The arm rest did go up, but that was the only thing (that I know of)... our hands stayed in our respectable space.  He had to work night shift so, after the movie we went our separate ways with plans to hopefully meet up sometime next week. His son is in town this weekend and will be with him until after the new year. I'm hoping to go to trivia night next week and I invited him to stop by before his night shift. I feel a good connection with Mike. He's funny and genuinely sweet, and he doesn't cry during sappy movies.  Stay tuned...

R.I.P Mr. July

Ok, So Mr. July didn't physically die, but him as a dating prospect has. He lasted the longest out anyone in the past so he was a great contender. However, there were so many differences between us that it would never work. He is so conservative and reserved and I'm, well... NOT! If I asked him a question, instead of being honest, he just would ignore me which didn't fly to well as you could imagine! Also, He's 38 and just now deciding to change careers to be a cop. Something wasn't fitting with that situation either. But anyway... such is life. I had fun going out and doing things with someone but if it's not going to go anywhere then what's the point? No harm done... I wasn't upset or anything when we agreed it wasn't going to work so that tells you something.... Moving on to Mr. August... I have a lot of work to do before 2013 comes around! I don't think my goal will be met! :/

Mr. August

Real Name:Mike
From: Gambrills
Date Location: The Greene Turtle- Crofton

Background info: Once I saw him in person, I knew that I had known him from somewhere but I couldn't place it. After talking for a bit, we realized that we had bowled on the same bowling league 3-4 years ago. Small world.

Date Deets (aka Details): Met at The Turtle. We had to wait FOREVER for a table because it was the Skins vs. Ravens Game and I thought by being an hour early would have been enough time to grab a seat. Apparently not. 1.5 hours would have done it though! We waited for about an hour and luckily we got a table for 2 just as the game was starting! We ordered food and conversed... conversation was flowy and he is pretty funny. Didn't seem awkward or anything. After the game was over and we meandered our way through the rowdy skins fans that were hopped up on adrenaline from a FANTASTIC WIN (HTTR) he walked me to my car and said he had a good time and he hopes we can hang out again. About 30 minutes later, he texted me and said he hoped I had as much fun as he did and to have a good evening... so nice and thoughtful is he!

Pros: nice guy, paid for "date", kept using "future" words which suggested another date, hard worker (works 2 jobs)

Cons: Not so straight teeth (you all know how I am about teeth!), has a 12 year old son which he doesn't see as much as he would like, poker player (but he's apparently a good one!)

He seems like a nice guy and easy to talk to... I'm looking forward to date 2 with Mr. August. I'm not sure if there's going to be sparks or fireworks but... never know! :)

Mr. July: Third Date

So, the third date wasn't planned to be until Sunday (tomorrow).... but I figured I would see if he wanted to go see a movie (Alex Cross) with me yesterday. Now, this is a big deal because I prefer to see movies in the theater alone. 1 reason is because I don't have to worry if the other person is having a good time and the 2nd reason is I get a bit distracted because movie theaters make me frisky and 3- I don't like going as a "date" activity because you can't talk-well, it's frowned upon by other movie goers, go figure!  I figured he might not feel up to coming out because he spent the whole day volunteering for some golf tournament and wasn't suppose to get done til 5:00 or so. Anyway, he said he would and we met at the theater since I had Moll-Doo in the car! (PITA dog, but gotta love her). I had gotten the tickets earlier, thank goodness because the line was horrendous and the line inside where they tear your stub was getting longer by the second. He asked how he could pay me back since I already got the tickets and I told him don't worry about it. I got this date. He bought the snacks! We got in the theater way early so it gave us a good amount of time to scope out prime seats (I'm a seat snob) and chit chat for a bit. The movie was good and he enjoyed it as well. Our hands stayed within their owner's space. When the movie was over, we walked over to Yolavie (frozen yogurt place) that's next door. First time we both have been there and let me tell you, so fun and delish! He paid for that as well.  We sat for a bit and ate our Fro-Yo.  He then walked me to my car (like usual) and then an awkward moment! I had a feeling a kiss would occur since it came up in conversation the previous date.... but instead of "letting it happen" he leaned in while I was a good foot away with lips puckered. I thought about watching him stand there for a bit to see what would happen, but I didn't. Other than the awkwardness of it, it was your regular PG13 kiss. In and out- no tonsil hockey. No tongue action.... just lip to lip contact and that's all. It felt a little forced to me.  We are suppose to meet up Sunday morning for breakfast and bowling. Perhaps if there is a kiss tomorrow it will be less weird. I'm a bit worried he's too conservative and "safe" for me to keep interest going. He's a great guy but so far, there's no butterflies or oogly feelings that make me want to rip his clothing off! He's cute, smart and good company... but I'm not sure they pass

Mr. July:Second Date

Second Date Deets: The original plan he came up with included Molly. We were going to walk her and then dinner. However, she has now realized that even when I leave her out of her crate, that I still leave. So, I got a new thingy-ma-bob that sends a noise that she can hear that I can't (although I'm convinced it gives me a headache) when she barks. I wanted her to get exposed to it tonight so it's not "new" to her in the morning when I leave for work. Side note: I hope it works, because I'm running out of ideas! Ok, so new plan was in effect and I met him at Columbia Mall where we walked around for a bit before it closed. (6:00 seems a bit early to close even on a Sunday, but anyway).  We went to Oakley store so he could look around. He asked if I wanted to go anywhere and I admitted to not being a big shopper (unless there is a Staple/Office Depot around) which he admitted to being. After the mall began closing, we walked to P.F. Chang's for dinner. DELICIOUS! Conversation was good and I ate a mint leaf (part of it) just because it was too tempting not to try it! Then he tried it too! He was not a fan as I was but at least he's adventurous and tries things! I like that about him! I also like exclamation marks apparently!  We got fortune cookies and he wouldn't share his fortune with me. He put it in his wallet and he said he hopes it will happen and if he shares it then it won't. He will share it with me in the future, he hopes. ;) Future is a good word! A bit scary....but good. Better than Past, Previous or Ex. My fortune wasn't really a fortune, it was more like words of wisdom and I can't recall what it said exactly but it was along the lines of Don't be critical... hmmm.. kismet! So he already mentioned seeing me again, possibly this Friday.  He opens doors... which is nice and chivalrous and all, but double doors (one door and then another door in front) are tricky. So, he opens the first door, and then I go through but now I'm in front of him so he rushed to open the next door. I'm quite capable of opening a door, honestly. I don't want to just stand there like I'm an invalid or pretentious waiting for him to open the door, but it's nice that he says "I got it" and attempts to get it before I get to it! :) Some doors are heavy... by all means OPEN THOSE! He paid and I got to have my fantastic banana spring rolls and veggie wraps! Fantastic dinner! He smelled good again too. Abercrombie Fierce... YUM! He seems way more romantic and swoony (that should be a word!) than me, but perhaps it's what I need after all the terrible luck with men in the past. It's nice being with someone who is a gentleman and a good person at heart. This is new territory for me... treading lightly! This post might be super long! Perhaps Third Date Deets will be posted Friday! Stay tuned......

Mr. July

Real Name: James
From: Owings Mills
Date Location: The Greene Turtle- Crofton

Background info: He's Korean-American and was adopted as a baby.  He has no desire to search for his birth parents. He's close (but not weird close) to his parents. An only child.  He works at BMW in the retail dept.

Date Deets (aka Details): Met at The Turtle.  He stood up (decked out in American Eagle attire- I'm not sure how I feel about this at the moment) and shook my hand and then introduced himself when I found him.  He had a water in front of him and when I questioned him about his choice of liquid, he stated he didn't want to drink beer unless I was so he was waiting for me to order.  I quickly informed him that when at The Turtle there is no "choice" of beverage. It is known that Sam Adams Seasonal IS the drink! He understood, begged forgiveness for not knowing this rule. I didn't judge but did tell him he had a strike...ok, I'm getting WAY into this creative writing thing... back up to begging forgiveness, he ordered a Coors (now THAT should be a strike!) and I impressed him with my taste buds of steel by ordering the "blazing hot" wings. Umm, Date Food Ordering Deets Tangent:  Just FYI, those things ARE in fact BLAZING HOT! The first one catches you by surprise, the second creates a burning/tingling sensation, the third one makes you feel like your lips are going to fall off and then the last three go down easy because your body is in shock! Back to the Date Deets: conversation flowed well. It happened to be trivia night (which is AWESOME!).  He contributed 2 (correct) answers out of 20, which could be a potential problem, but we will see if he can keep up in the smarts dept. as time goes on. Not everyone is innately brilliant as I.... such is life! :) After trivia ended, he walked me to my car, which was extra nice since he was freezing. He asked for a hug... and I obliged. He smelled real good! :) He said a few times throughout the night that he was having a great time- perhaps he doesn't get out much?!?   It was a fun time, for a first date anyway. Nothing too awkward or weird. Mr. July overall was worth the wait... makes me a bit nervous too because he's the most "normal" and the most genuine of all the months. Commitmentphobe? NAH... well, not really, ... maybe? 

Pros: Owns a house, dresses preppy (this is also a negative because I'm not sure how I feel about this), works out often, nice, paid for date, funny in a quirky way, he told me to text him when I got home so he knew I made it safely- how nice! 

Cons: Now, these cons might not be "cons" to others, but to me... I'm not sure how I feel about these yet, so let's start with dresses preppy, mentioned his mom wants to have a grandchild, and he seems to be the settling down type. Like I said, could just be me making the aforementioned things cons but we will see. Perhaps he will be the one to make me view them as pros. I did say I was going to meet my future ex husband prior to meeting him, so.... never know! 


Post Date Status: I asked if we were going to hang out again and he said he would like that. I told him to plan the next one since I set up the first.... I'm still waiting to hear what his idea is!